Benefits of dating an older woman
So don’t be surprised if he chooses hanging with his bros over coming over to your place more often than you’d hope he would.“Many younger men are more connected with their peers than they are with the idea of being a couple,” explains Naples, FL-based author and relationship columnist April Masini.“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.Your biological clock is ticking away, meanwhile his might not even be turned on.A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by a concert the next.Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel.So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.
“A man can sometimes make his girlfriend feel like more of a mommy-figure than a peer,” Ludwig says.
It appears I’m going to have to create a new phrase. And, unlike the 23-year-old who gets tanked and throws shade at your ex, she’s got class. Any man who’s had a serious relationship with a woman over the age of 30 can attest to the accuracy of that one. Instead, the older woman is dominated by A) years of negative experiences with men that color her view of them, and B) years of society telling her that she’s a “lady” and that she deserves a man to kiss her ass and serve her, or else he’s not a “gentleman”, which is the over-33-woman term for She doesn’t need you; she wants you.
It’s something I see a lot of, yet there is no word/phrase to describe it. I think someone published a book by that title a few years ago, but I don’t care. Gender myopia is the condition of being so narrowly focused on what your gender likes, you are completely blinded to the realities of what the other gender likes. I’ve mentioned before that some of the biggest gold diggers I’ve ever encountered were women who made high incomes, as in ,000 a year or more. Yes, everyone knows that older women never get bitchy-jealous about exes. If she’s gotten this far on her own, regardless of whatever relationships are behind her, she’s been through enough ups and downs to know she can handle just about anything.
You think the other gender wants exactly what you want. When men email pictures of their genitalia to women thinking “Oh yeah, that’ll turn her on,” that’s gender myopia. By the way…a simple question: Would you rather date a woman with no money who expects you to pay for the entire cost of an expensive date, or a woman who makes decent money who expects the same? And whereas younger women are putting you through the paces to see if you can provide her with a life, an identity, and a future, an older woman already knows who she is and what she wants to do—she’d just love someone to share it with.
When women brag on their online profiles about how “sassy” they are and their college degrees, that’s also gender myopia. Of course the best woman is one who want you to pay for the date at all because she’s truly independent, but if you had to pick between one of the two above women, which of them would probably make a better long-term girlfriend? Younger women put men through these “paces” but older women don’t? Has this woman ever been on a first date with a woman over 33?